Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Mixtape Monday v18 {On a Tuesday}

Hello there. It's been a few weeks, yeah? Unintentional blogging break again. Sometimes those are good though, right? A little therapeutic. I tend to get pretty wrapped up in my thoughts as is, so it's probably good to just stop the mental presses for a while. Things have been a bit crazy as of late, but we'll get into that a bit later. Part crazy good, part crazy bad. For now, I am here to share my favorite thing, the actual most therapeutic thing: music.

First off- my brother, LE YOUTH (not his actual birth name, SHOCKINGLY), has the Record of the Week on Nick Grimshaw's morning show on BBC Radio 1! (Listen in at 54:00.) I'm a proud little sister. Couldn't be more excited about that.

Other than that, I've got a vaguely depressing playlist for you this Tuesday morning.  I had this all ready to publish yesterday (given that it's supposed to be Mixtape Monday) but because I'm SO out of the habit of blogging, I totally forgot. Weird how you can adjust to not doing something you used to do nearly every single day, huh? Well, I won't promise that my updates will get more frequent anytime soon, but I certainly hope so. I've got an open schedule this weekend, so maybe I'll finally sit down at my computer and write. Just maybe.

1. Delta Rae / Bottom of the River
2. Lana Del Rey / Young and Beautiful
3. MS MR / Hurricane
4. Bad Books / It Never Stops
5. Sleeping At Last / I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles)
6. Owen / Blues to Black
7. Frank Tuner / Recovery
8. Against Me! / Sink, Florida, Sink
9. Jackson Scott / That Awful Sound
10. Arctic Monkeys / Do I Wanna Know?
11. Grouplove / Ways To Go
12. Regina Spektor / You've Got Time
13. Anthony Green / Love You No Matter What

Listen: Spotify / Grooveshark

Monday, July 1, 2013

Follow Along...

As everyone on the internet is aware, Google Reader is shutting down tomorrow. (Or technically today, if you're on the East Coast.) As bummed as I am about this fact, and trust me- I've had more than a few "OMG, WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS TO ME?!" moments over the past few months, there are a few alternatives to Google Reader that I'm really digging. I hope that you will keep reading and following my (mis)adventures here in LA. 

2. The Old Reader (for which you will need my RSS Feed)
3. Feedly (for which you will need my URL)

Any of those will do the trick. Apologies for being so MIA lately from this little space of mine on the internet. I got a new job (YAY!) that I'm totally loving (DOUBLE YAY!) but I'm not ready/fully willing to talk about it thoroughly yet. Maybe eventually. For now, suffice it to say that I'm working in a semi-new field, doing what I love, and learning every single day. Other than that, I've just been enjoying my very first LA Summer! Also, my air conditioning is broken, so I've basically been sweating for like a week nonstop. Super sexy, huh? That's why all the boys love me. ANYWAY. I'm hoping to be back to regularly scheduled programming soon. Hold tight :)

Friday, June 14, 2013

Debunking the Carrie Bradshaw Fantasy

We are not all Carrie Bradshaw. We're not Samantha, Charlotte or Miranda either. Our lives are not television shows- not fantasy. I am sure this is not news to anybody. But the big reveal of adulthood is perhaps this: we don't want to be them either- because, really, high heels are inconvenient and sometimes make me feel like a hooker. (And not in a Julia Roberts, Pretty Woman kind of way.) Also, Big is kind of a douche. THERE. I SAID IT. Truthfully, as I am nearing an age where I finally have to start calling myself a "woman" instead of a "girl," I am coming to terms with the fact that shows like Sex and the City should not be filed under the "TV- Romantic Comedy" section of Netflix, but rather the "TV- Fantasy" section. Even more bizarre is the realization that reality is so much better than this so called fantasy.

Last year, I read an article written by Julia Allison and Julia Price for the New York Post that caused an eye roll so epic that I still remember it today, fifteen months later. (I'm an emotional pack rat.) One sentence stuck, in particular- "Every woman comes to New York to be Carrie." Cue the epic eye roll, once again. Could you just vomit? I mean, really. As a girl who moved to New York City at 18-years-old, not knowing a single person in the tri-state area to attend New York University, I can safely assure you- I did NOT want to be Carrie Bradshaw. Nor did my roommates or the girls I worked with or any of the girls in my Freshman year orientation group. No girl (with an IQ high enough to get into NYU, or Columbia or Barnard, etc.) legitimately believes that she can afford a spacious apartment on the Upper East Side and a shoe collection that rivals that of Cher Horowitz on money made from a tiny newspaper column about sex. Really, it's LOL-worthy. Not only that, but I happen to believe that none of my fellow cohorts at my dorm freshman year (or sophomore year for that matter) would have been satisfied by the lifestyle portrayed in the TV show. Life can not solely consist of brunch dates with gal pals, shopping, extravagant purchases, mind-numbingly dull dates and occasionally "working." It sounds more than a little frivolous to me. 

When I moved to New York, nearly every student I met at NYU wanted to do something great with their lives- become doctors, nurses, run companies, direct movies, work for non-profits. Had I even mentioned the name "Carrie Bradshaw" in my journalism classes, I most likely would have been laughed out of class, if not the major entirely. She is the Voldemort of journalism. She-who-must-not-be-named. (I later switched out of journalism, but not because of Carrie Bradshaw. That would just be weird.) In college, I encountered some of the smartest most intriguing people I've met to this day. People full of dreams, ambitions and usually a little bit of social ineptitude. Just how I like 'em. And I'd like to think that they would all be as offended as I am at the notion that we moved to New York to be Carrie Bradshaw, and stifle a giggle at anyone who believes that her life is anything close to attainable or fulfilling.

All of that being said, I do happen to love Sex and the City and can quote nearly every episode. But I also really loved Rugrats when I was little and watched it every single day. And yet, that doesn't mean I believe in talking babies, or a world where Manolo Blahnik's are weekly purchases. Yes, it is easy to watch shows like Sex and the City and Keeping Up with the Kardashians and get wrapped up in the lifestyle of it all. But for what? Television is supposed to be entertainment and an escape from reality, not a mold from which to structure our lives. I certainly hope we don't live in a world where girls moving to New York legitimately want to be Carrie Bradshaw. I hope (and believe) that they want to be Gloria Steinem, Christiane Amanpour, and Maureen Dowd. Or, if it must be a woman from television, at least Olivia Pope from Scandal. Substantial, impactful women who work hard and whose lives have purpose. This purpose, of course, can be anything, not just journalism or politics. Perhaps you want to be the next Tina Fey (if so, let's be best friends), or the next Stella McCartney (again, best friends), or the next Julia Child (ok, srsly- BFFs.) No matter what the goal, the important thing is to wildly pursue it, through the pitfalls and the insecurities, the ups and the downs, the sleepless nights and the constant questioning, never minding at all that it doesn't look a damn thing like what they show on TV.

As for me- I'll take the reality over the fantasy any day. Flats, a sale rack dress from Target and a sincere worry that I might not even make rent next month, especially if I keep on giving in to what is apparently my new life mantra, "It's Wednesday, this calls for margaritas!" But I'll figure it out. I always do. Life is messy and it is not a television show. We should all be fighting the notion (whether it be internal or external) that our lives should be anything other than messy and complicated. I want more than a collection of high heels, damn it. I want an exciting, exhilarating, terrifying, imperfect life. Screw the fantasy.

I leave you with this brilliant piece of writing by Aaron Sorkin, from "The Greater Fool", the finale of Season 1 of The Newsroom, as brilliantly delivered by Allison Pill, who plays Maggie Jordan, screaming at a Sex and the City bus tour*:

"I'm a typical single woman in New York City! I don't wear heels to work because the typical woman's job doesn't exclusively involve gallery openings. And I know Carrie must have made boatloads writing her 800-word column for a newspaper no one's ever heard of but I just spent my last seven dollars having a fight with my best friend who, by the way, is not available at 3:00 p.m. on a Wednesday to console me about some guy, because she, too, has a job. And mostly, when you fall for a guy and he's going out with your best friend, it doesn't work out. Things get really bad."

*If you don't watch The Newsroom, you really, really should. It's chock-full of powerful, impactful women who give amazing speeches that, more often than not, make me want to lead some sort of crusade against some sort of injustice or kerfuffle. Hence, this post.

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Etsy Shop Love: Uptairs at Shaginy & Til's

You know how my Mom is awesome and kind of the greatest human ever? Well, her awesomeness continues to grow. She opened up an Etsy shop and sells all sorts of amazing vintage pieces- suitcases, home decor, typewriters, purses, etc. Lots of adorable stuff that I would kill to clutter my apartment with. But I resist the urge, because Mama's got a business to run. Her shop is called Upstairs at Shaginy & Til's and she runs it with her sister, Mindy, and they have a blast doing it. I'm so proud of both of them for putting their creative energy behind their shop. Turns out, my love of all things vintage totally runs in the family. I must say, my Mom has pretty spectacular taste. I mean, an olive green suitcase? Can I have 12, please? Stop by their Etsy shop and say hi!

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Monday, June 10, 2013

Mixtape Monday v17

Happy Monday! Something about this time in June that makes me feel like a kid during summer vacation. I'm looking forward to even more beach days and endless summer nights. You know, those nights where it's still hot out, even at midnight, that you spend adventuring with friends- nights full of perfect moments and a complete disregard for alarm clocks and responsibilities. I think I'm ready for a few of those nights. Although, I did just find a hole in the crotch of my favorite jorts, so I might have to re-stock on my summer staples soon. All you need for a successful summer: jorts, tank tops, flip flops, a ridiculous amount of A-Line dresses and tequila. Nothing says summer like a margarita! Oh, and this playlist...

1. Vampire Weekend / Unbelievers
2. Haerts / Wings
3. Youngblood Hawke / Rootless
4. The Strokes / All The Time
5. Phoenix / Trying to Be Cool
6. Portugal. The Man / Purple Yellow Red and Blue
7. Local Natives / Heavy Feet
8. Sir Sly / Ghost
9. Emma Louise / Boy
10. Say Lou Lou / Julian
11. Charli XCX / You- Ha Ha Ha
12. Disclosure / Control
13. Robin Thicke, T.I., Pharrell / Blurred Lines
14. Selena Gomez / Come & Get It
15. CSS / Hangover

Listen: Spotify / Grooveshark